Clayton Udo, a Nigerian IT professional based in the United States, has raised alarming concerns about the struggles African men face in relationships abroad, particularly in the U.S. According to Udo, many African men have been financially drained and left in devastating situations by their wives. Some have even fled or tragically lost their lives due to emotional and financial distress.
Speaking on the issue, Udo remarked, “Many people don’t understand what African men are going through in this country. I can tell you that many men have either run to Mexico or Canada to escape or have been rendered helpless in this country. Men have had 200k, 300k placed on their heads by African women. These women go on platforms like TikTok and Facebook, posting pictures of themselves and the children, while taking everything from the man, including the house.”
Abuse of African Men in the U.S.: A Call for Change
Udo’s comments come after a tragic case of Dr. Ikenna Erinne, an American-trained cardiologist, who reportedly took his own life after an American court ordered him to pay his ex-wife. The incident has sparked wider concerns about the abuse of African men in U.S. marriages.
Udo further emphasized that many men have met similar fates, with hundreds losing their lives in the past decade under similar circumstances. Sharing his personal experience, he explained, “When I went through my divorce, being in IT, I had a recruiter. My ex-wife went to every recruiter, reporting me, and then claimed to have completed her IT course. By the time I contacted the recruiters, they refused to work with me, saying they were now working with her. This left me at a disadvantage.”
Udo also pointed out that some women make false abuse claims to gain leverage in divorce cases, which often results in men losing everything, including their homes and custody of their children.
“Some of them fabricate stories of verbal and physical abuse to gain the upper hand. They marry you with the intention of taking everything you have – from your home to your children,” Udo warned. “They see you as a way to escape poverty, but once they’re in your life, they aim to strip you of everything.”
He cautioned African men to be cautious when choosing a partner, warning that many women marry with the intention of using the relationship as a stepping stone out of poverty, only to leave their husbands destitute. “Many African men in the U.S. have been reduced to nothing, and they remain silent, submissive to the situation, even though they suffer in silence,” he said.
Udo’s remarks highlight an urgent need for greater awareness and change regarding the treatment of African men in relationships abroad.
